In the case of my 79-year-old mother, the answer was no.

While helping my sister pack for a move, she decided to climb a painter’s ladder to clean high kitchen cabinets. One missed step changed everything. She fell—and soon after, she was headed into surgery for a shattered hip.

For years, I had warned her: one bad fall can be life-changing. But like many older adults, she felt confident in her independence and didn’t think twice about climbing that ladder.

Before the fall, she was fiercely independent. Today, she relies on a walker and other assistive devices to complete everyday tasks.

Her story is not unique.

Why Fall Prevention Matters for Older Adults

Each year, over 14 million Americans age 65 and older fall, representing about 1 in 4 seniors. Falls are the leading cause of injury in older adults, resulting in:

• Over 3 million emergency room visits annually
• More than 1 million hospitalizations
• A significantly higher risk of falling again—the chance doubles after the first fall

These numbers highlight why fall prevention at home is critical for maintaining independence, safety, and quality of life.

Practical Fall Prevention Tips for Home Safety

While not all falls can be prevented, there are many proven ways to reduce fall risk in seniors:

• Review Medications Regularly
  • Some prescriptions and over-the-counter medications can cause dizziness, drowsiness, or blood pressure changes. Regular medication reviews with a doctor or pharmacist are essential.
• Encourage Strength and Balance Exercises
  • Activities like walking, chair exercises, and Tai Chi for fall prevention can improve stability, coordination, and confidence.
• Schedule Annual Vision Checks
  • Keeping prescriptions up to date helps identify trip hazards more easily and reduces fall risk.
• Improve Home Safety
  • Simple home modifications can make a big difference:
    • Remove clutter and secure loose rugs
    • Keep walkways clear
    • Increase lighting and use night-lights

• Install Safety Features
  • Grab bars in bathrooms
  • Handrails on both sides of stairs
  • Non-slip mats in showers and wet areas
• Wear Proper Footwear
  • Choose non-slip, well-fitting shoes instead of slippers, socks alone, or worn-out footwear.
• Use Assistive Devices Correctly
  • Walkers, canes, and other mobility aids should be within reach and used as recommended.
• Move Slowly and Mindfully
  • Standing up too quickly can cause dizziness, especially for those with low blood pressure.
• Avoid Climbing
  • Keep frequently used items within easy reach to eliminate the need for ladders, stools, or chairs.
• Talk About Falls Openly
  • If a fall or near-fall happens, discuss it. Early conversations can prevent more serious injuries.

A Final Thought on Preventing Falls at Home

Even with the best fall prevention strategies, accidents can still happen. But in my mother’s case, increased awareness and safety precautions could have reduced her risk.

These conversations matter.

We must continue to talk openly and often with our aging loved ones—not to take away their independence, but to protect it for as long as possible.

Because ultimately, fall prevention isn’t about limiting life—it’s about preserving it.

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by: Kim Yoder, MSW – UCH Engage Program Director

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Pastoral or Spiritual Care is an important component for United Church Homes as we work toward our vision of creating a culture of community, wholeness and peace. In our healthcare communities, we have trained chaplains on staff to not only tend to the spiritual well-being of residents, but to staff and extended families. These chaplains have earned Master of Divinity degrees through three-year graduate programs, are ordained clergy, maintain their denomination’s continuing education standards and have completed multiple units of Clinical Pastoral Education. In short, they are highly trained spiritual care professionals called to serve individuals of all faith backgrounds–meeting people where they are and offering compassionate, person-centered support. 

Unfortunately, too many people assume that chaplains working with older adults are there to help residents prepare for their death. And yes, chaplains are available to accompany those who are transitioning toward end of life, but even more important, they are present to meet residents where they are on their spiritual journey. This includes being attentive to what gives the resident meaning and purpose at this point in their lives. How are they experiencing their connectedness to God or their higher power? How are their relationships and connections with others? How is it with their souls, their inner lives, as they reflect on the past, look to the future and experience the current realities as they live in bodies that are aging? 

Chaplains and Medical Care 

There are numerous clinical assessments that need to be documented for multiple compliance agencies in skilled care settings. One of these is a Mood Assessment. This is a short set of questions for newly admitted residents to monitor their feelings to better understand their overall well-being.  

If you were to look over UCH’s data prior to mid-2025, it would appear that everyone who moved into our communities was just fine and dandy.  It was recorded that just about every new resident basically indicated they were “fine”. Senior leadership knew, however, that this is not so. There are all kinds of very natural and conflicting feelings in a period of adjustment when residents move into a new home.  

So, they asked the chaplains to administer this assessment, instead of clinical staff. Suddenly it was observed that new residents were grieving their former homes; they were struggling with establishing new relationships with staff and new neighbors. The chaplains training provided a different lens through which they could really listen to what was going on in the new resident’s life. Because of the change in who collected the information, through one-on-one conversations with the chaplains, the communities are now better able to meet the real needs of new residents because we have a better understanding of what they are feeling. 

It’s Not Just About the Residents 

Recently in a workshop at a large conference, which was talking about end-of-life care, one participant talked about their frustration and concern when one of their clients dies. Their employer tells them to close the file and move to the next person who needs their care. This participant was expressing their personal feelings of grief and burnout. The floor was opened up and the rest of us were invited to share how our organizations support staff in those moments of loss.  

I immediately thought of the many stories of how UCH chaplains provide space for residents and staff to remember the death of those they have come to know and love. Sometimes that is meeting with the staff at the beginning of their next shift and inviting anyone to share a story about the resident and remember how their life had contributed to the community. Sometimes the chaplain is asked to provide a bedside liturgy at the time of death including family and staff. Sometimes they preside at the funeral or memorial service. These are important rituals honoring the life of the one who died. 

At one of our communities, three residents passed away on one day and by the end of the month, there were a total of 12 deaths—many of them long term residents, and several of the deaths were sudden and not expected. Recognizing the extensive grief, the chaplain organized a Grief Fair for staff and residents, creating a space to acknowledge and process their own feelings of loss. The event reinforced an important message: grief is a shared human experience, and those feelings deserve care and attention. 

Connecting beyond ourselves

When we talk about spiritual care we also consider how the individual is connected to God or their higher power. When we recognize that we are a part of something larger than ourselves, we are able to consider not only our own inner lives but experience the awe and mystery of the transcendent. Thanks to brain imaging technology today, researchers know that just telling someone else about these experiences has the same effect on our brains as getting a hug from a grandparent or someone we love. Chaplains encourage spiritual growth as they provide opportunities to experience the sacred. 

Spiritual care is also attentive to how we connect to others. Chaplains encourage residents to participate in their communities, with families and friends. Our connection to others reminds us that belonging and meaningful relationships are important elements in overall well-being. 

The transitions that come in later life are sometimes unrelenting. It can be helpful to have others who support our journey as we process the many forms of grief we experience. It can be a source of comfort to know that there is someone who will listen and hold our confidence as we make sense of our life experiences.  

Legacy can be another area where chaplains can be helpful. Legacy is concerned with the questions of what we can do now to make a difference in the world. What gifts have been given to me that I can share with others at this time in my life?  

We know that more than 60% of people do not have active engagement with a religious community or belief system when they reach later life. But we also know that 100% of us are spiritual beings. It has been observed that many are more curious about and interested in exploring their spirituality in later life than they ever were before. Tending to our spiritual growth is just one way that we contribute to aging abundantly, and the chaplains who provide spiritual care are important assets as they work to support and promote the health of everyone in their community. 

Spiritual care is ultimately about presence—meeting people in the fullness of their humanity, not only in moments of crisis or transition, but throughout the entire aging journey. At United Church Homes, our chaplains help create environments where residents, families and staff are supported as they navigate life—change, loss, meaning, growth. In doing so, they help us live more fully into our mission of community, wholeness and peace. Their work reminds us that aging is not just something to be managed—but something to be honored, supported and deeply understood as part of the sacred fabric of life. 

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by: Rev. Beth Long-Higgins – Vice President of Engagement & Director of the Center for Abundant Aging

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No family expects a loved one to need skilled nursing care. No one expects a serious illness or injury that requires a hospital stay. Yet many people do need post-hospital care in a skilled nursing community to recover safely before returning home.

When a physician or social worker tells you that your loved one needs skilled nursing care, the experience can feel overwhelming. You may feel concerned, unsure, emotional, or even guilty. That reaction is completely understandable. Choosing a skilled nursing community is a big decision, and it helps to know what to expect before taking the next step.

What Is Skilled Nursing Care?

Skilled nursing care is a level of care that is different from assisted living. Skilled nursing provides medical support, rehabilitation, medication management and daily care for people who need more help than they can safely receive at home right away.

For many families, a skilled nursing facility becomes the bridge between a hospital stay and a safe return home. For others, it provides the right level of support for ongoing health needs. Either way, the goal is to help each person stay as healthy, comfortable, and safe as possible.

One of the most reassuring things to know is that skilled nursing is not only about medical care—it’s also about helping people regain confidence. This may include rebuilding strength after surgery, learning to move safely again, adjusting to new limitations, managing medications, or settling into a new routine with the support of caring professionals.

What To Ask

When choosing skilled nursing, it helps to ask thoughtful questions:

• What services are available on site?
• How is the care plan developed, followed, and updated?
• How does the interdisciplinary team communicate with residents and families?
• What types of therapies are offered?
• How are residents supported emotionally and socially?
• What does a normal day look like for someone receiving skilled nursing care?

These questions help you understand the experience, not just the services. A facility may look good on paper, but the way staff communicate and interact with residents often says much more.

What Families Can Expect

The transition into a skilled nursing community after an acute hospital stay can feel unsettling simply because it is unfamiliar. Here are a few things that can reduce uncertainty.

• The hospital transfers the needed parts of the medical record to the skilled nursing facility, so the treatment plan and medications can continue there. The SNF stay begins with assessments and questions. Having a family member or close friend available can be helpful when staff are gathering medical history, previous level of function, mobility needs, daily habits and personal preferences. This information helps the team build an individualized care plan that reflects the resident, not just the condition being treated.
• The family or responsible party is an important part of the care-planning team. In a good skilled nursing setting, communication matters. You should feel informed about your loved one’s progress, therapy schedule, and any changes in condition. Asking questions is encouraged.
• The first few days can feel like a lot, but routines usually become easier to manage. Meeting the interdisciplinary team, learning the layout of the community, and understanding the daily schedule can help everyone feel more at ease.

How To Support A Loved One

Families play an important role in making the transition smoother. A familiar face, regular visits, and personal items can help make an unfamiliar place feel more comfortable. Small comforts matter.

It also helps to stay engaged without feeling like you must do everything yourself. The interdisciplinary team is there to support your loved one, and they are also there to support you. Sharing personal preferences, routines, or concerns can help staff provide more personalized care.

If your loved one is able, encourage active participation in recovery. Attending therapy, taking medications as prescribed, eating nutritious meals, following the care plan, and speaking up about needs or discomfort can all support better outcomes. Recovery is more manageable when everyone is working toward the same goal.

If possible, encourage your loved one to eat meals in the dining room and join appropriate community activities. These opportunities can support socialization, help restore normal routines, and bring a little enjoyment into the day.

Moving Forward

No family expects to need skilled nursing care, and it is normal to feel uncertain when that time comes. But uncertainty does not mean you are unprepared. When you understand what skilled nursing care is, ask thoughtful questions, and stay connected to the care team, the path becomes clearer and more manageable.

At its best, skilled nursing care provides more than medical support. It offers reassurance, structure, and a team working toward one shared goal: helping your loved one heal, adjust, and feel supported every step of the way.

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by: Debra Durbin- Senior Executive Director of Clinical Operations

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As we observe Fair Housing Month and reflect on housing equity nationwide, it is an important moment to examine how affordability makes aging in place possible—and why it must remain a priority as our population continues to age.

Why Affordable Housing Matters

Aging in place is ultimately about choice: the ability to remain in one’s home and community as needs evolve. But when housing costs outpace income, that choice quickly disappears.

The reality is that many older adults live on extremely limited, fixed incomes. Across United Church Homes senior housing communities, the average resident lives on less than $17,000 annually, relying almost entirely on Social Security, SSI, or a modest pension income. With virtually no wage earnings or financial flexibility, predictable housing costs are essential.

Affordable senior housing ensures that residents are not forced to choose between rent, healthcare, food, or transportation. Through income‑aligned rents and housing subsidies that cover more than half of the true cost of housing, residents are protected from displacement and financial instability—conditions that would otherwise make aging in place impossible.

Equally important, these communities are intentionally designed to support independence. Accessible living spaces, proximity to services, and on‑site service coordination help residents adapt as mobility or health needs change, without losing their homes.

Aging in Place Is Working

The impact of affordability is clear. Residents remain stably housed for years—not months. The average length of stay across United Church Homes communities exceeds five years, with a significant number of residents remaining for a decade or longer.

This longevity reflects more than housing retention. It reflects stability, trust, and community. When housing remains affordable over time, older adults are able to stay rooted, build relationships, and remain engaged in the places they call home.

Rather than cycling through housing or entering higher‑cost care prematurely, residents continue living independently in environments that evolve with them.

Who Is Aging in Place?

The demographics of senior housing illustrate why affordability and accessibility matter so deeply. The average resident age in United Church Homes communities is nearly 74, with many individuals in their 80s and 90s continuing to live independently.

Most residents live alone.  For them, housing communities provide not only stability but connection—neighbors who notice when someone is missing, shared spaces that reduce isolation, and access to resources that support well‑being.

Residents also bring diverse life experiences, including veterans, individuals with disabilities, immigrants, and those who have experienced housing instability in the past. This diversity underscores the importance of equity‑focused housing solutions that recognize and respond to a wide range of needs.

Fair Housing and Aging with Dignity

Fair Housing Month reminds us that safe, affordable housing is a right—not a privilege. For older adults, fair housing protections play a critical role in ensuring access to income‑aligned rent, reasonable accommodations, and accessible environments.

These protections help ensure that aging does not result in displacement and that older adults can remain housed with dignity, regardless of income, disability, or background.

Beyond Staying Put

Aging in place is not about just staying put. It is about remaining connected and engaged:

• A longtime resident adjusts to mobility changes with simple unit modifications—grab bars, improved lighting, and accessible pathways—allowing her to remain safely in her home without moving to higher‑cost care.
• A retired veteran remains housed on a fixed income, relying on predictable rent and on‑site service coordination to access benefits, transportation, and preventative healthcare, avoiding unnecessary hospital stays.
• A resident who once felt isolated finds connection through community meals, education programs, or wellness activities—transforming an apartment into a place of belonging, not just shelter.
• A widowed resident chooses to remain in her home after the loss of her spouse, supported by a community that understands the emotional as well as practical challenges of aging alone.

These moments illustrate that aging in place is about continuing to live fully—supported by housing that adapts and supports rather than displaces.

A Foundation for Abundant Living

Affordable housing is not merely a financial arrangement; it is the foundation that enables older adults to focus on relationships, health, and purpose. When housing costs are predictable and aligned with income, residents gain stability—and with it, opportunity.

As we reflect on housing equity this Fair Housing Month, may we continue building communities where every older adult has the opportunity to age in place safely, independently, and with abundance.

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by: Dan Fagan – Vice President of Care and Housing

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The aging process can bring new challenges, and with those challenges may come the need for additional support. But these changes don’t have to feel frightening—or like a loss of independence. When approached thoughtfully and proactively, transitions in care can actually improve safety, independence, and overall quality of life.

In this Abundant Focus blog, we’ll explore the most common levels of senior living, who each level is designed for, how care is typically funded, and how families can approach these transitions with confidence and dignity.

Independent Living: Independence with Convenience

Independent Living is often misunderstood as the first step in a declining journey of care—but that isn’t the case. Independent Living is exactly what the name suggests: a lifestyle choice that allows older adults to maintain independence while enjoying the benefits of community and convenience.

Residents typically live in a private apartment or single-level home while enjoying services such as:

• Maintenance-free living

• Lawn care and snow removal

• Meal plans

• Social, educational, and wellness activities

• Transportation options

Many communities are thoughtfully designed with age-friendly features such as elevators, well-lit spaces, and accessibility features that make everyday life easier. Some also offer convenient access to home care services, wellness programs, or outpatient therapies.

Independent Living is typically private pay, though costs vary widely depending on the community. Some offer income-based options, while others operate on an entry-fee model that provides long-term financial stability.

For many older adults, Independent Living offers the opportunity to simplify life, stay socially connected, and enjoy a vibrant community environment.

Learn more about what Independent Living is like at United Church Homes.

Assisted Living: Support with Daily Living

Assisted Living provides the next level of support for individuals who may need help with certain daily activities, often referred to as Activities of Daily Living (ADLs).

These may include:

• Bathing

• Dressing

• Grooming

• Eating

• Medication management

• Occasional mobility assistance

In Assisted Living communities, trained caregivers provide daily support while licensed nurses oversee care. The goal is not to replace independence—but to support it.

Many Assisted Living communities also offer specialized Memory Care neighborhoods for individuals living with Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia. These environments provide additional safety, structured routines, and programs designed to support cognitive engagement and emotional well-being.

Assisted Living communities are licensed and regulated by each state. Some communities participate in Medicaid Waiver programs that support Home and Community-Based Services (HCBS) for qualified residents. In addition, certain long-term care insurance policies may help cover a portion of the cost.

Learn more about what Assisted Living is like at United Church Homes. 

Skilled Nursing & Long-Term Care: Comprehensive Medical Support

Outside of hospitals and inpatient rehabilitation units, Skilled Nursing Facilities (SNFs) provide the highest level of care available in a residential setting. These facilities are licensed by both state and federal agencies and are regularly surveyed and inspected.

Many individuals enter a skilled nursing facility for short-term rehabilitation following a hospital stay. This type of care often includes:

• Physical therapy

• Occupational therapy

• Speech therapy

• Post-surgical care

• Medical monitoring

Short-term skilled care is typically covered by Medicare or Managed Care Organizations for a limited time, often less than 30 days. Co-insurance costs may apply depending on the individual’s coverage.

If someone can no longer return home or transition to a lower level of care, they may move into long-term care, which provides:

• 24-hour nursing care

• Assistance with daily living activities

• Ongoing medical supervision

Long-term care may be funded through private pay, long-term care insurance, or Medicaid for individuals who qualify.

Learn more about what Skilled Nursing is like at United Church Homes. 

How to Determine the Right Level of Care

Pro tip: Taking a tour of a senior living community is the best way to find out information and get your questions answered!

Choosing the right level of care can feel overwhelming. A few key considerations can help guide the process.

Safety First

Consider whether new risks are emerging, such as:

• Falls

• Medication errors

• Wandering

• Difficulty safely using appliances

• Poor nutrition or weight loss

Functional Needs

Is the individual struggling with everyday tasks such as cooking, bathing, managing medications, or maintaining the home?

Social and Emotional Well-Being

Isolation can be just as harmful as physical decline. Community engagement and meaningful connection play an important role in healthy aging.

Professional Evaluation

A primary care provider, nurse assessor, or therapy professional can help evaluate needs and recommend appropriate levels of support.

Planning Ahead Makes Transitions Easier

Care transitions are often most difficult when they happen suddenly during a crisis. Planning ahead allows individuals and families to make thoughtful decisions and maintain a sense of control.

For example, moving into a smaller home or apartment may take time and planning. Preferred communities may have waitlists, and amenities and services can vary widely. Taking time to explore options, tour communities, and ask questions can make the transition much smoother.

Family support also plays an important role. When loved ones remain engaged before, during, and after a move, it helps individuals adjust more comfortably to their new home.

After all, home is where the heart is—and the presence of family helps make any new place feel like home.

Final Thoughts

Transitions in care don’t have to be intimidating. The right level of support can provide greater safety, more independence, and an improved quality of life.

If you or a loved one are beginning to consider a change, start early, ask questions, and explore your options. Thoughtful planning today can make tomorrow’s transitions far more comfortable and empowering.

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by: Linda Dailey, MBA, LNHA, CEAL – Regional Director of Healthcare Operations

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But February is American Heart Month and it’s a great time to get back on track. Heart month was created to raise awareness about heart disease, which is the leading cause of death for both men and women and in the United States, according to the Center for Disease Control (cdc.gov).

Changing our eating habits is a process that takes time and looks different for each person based on their current diet. Many of us know we should cut back on salt, sugar, fried foods and processed foods– including sweets– however it’s far easier said than done. It takes time to change habits, and this includes how we eat. As a registered dietitian nutritionist (RDN), I’ve always encouraged my clients to start small: one food at a time, one day at a time.

So where do we start? The Dietary Guidelines for Americans have provided guidance on what to eat and drink to meet nutrient needs since 1980. Updated every five years, the newly released 2025-2030 guidelines contain some debated changes, but the primary message is simple– and a good one: eat real food. Building meals around protein, fruits, vegetables, whole grains, dairy and healthy fats supports optimal health and may assist with managing chronic diseases.

As we age, many of us don’t require the same number of calories we did when we were younger. We may be less active, and our portion sizes often naturally decrease over time. However, eating fewer calories doesn’t mean we should skimp on nutrient-dense foods. It’s still important to include a variety of foods from each food group.

It all starts with planning meals. I always encourage people to make a grocery list before heading to the store to help prevent unnecessary items from ending up in the cart. Choose vegetables and fruits in a variety of colors– they provide key nutrients including vitamins, minerals and antioxidants that promote good health. Fresh is best, followed by frozen or canned items with no added salt and/or limited sugars.

I often hear (and have personally said many times) that fresh fruits and vegetables take time to prepare because they need to be cleaned and prepped. So this year, I made it a personal goal, to prep my fruits and vegetables at the beginning of the week. This saves me time throughout the workweek, and I found I’m more successful at incorporating them into my daily meals. Success!

Aim to consume a variety of protein sources including eggs, seafood, poultry, red meat and plant sourced proteins including beans, peas, lentils, legumes, nuts and seeds. Include healthy fats from sources such as omega-3 fatty fish (salmon, mackerel, tuna), nuts, seeds, avocados and healthy oils such as olive, canola or avocado. How we prepare foods matters, too– baking, broiling, grilling, roasting and stir-frying can significantly reduce calories and fat compared with deep frying.

Incorporate whole-grain breads, pasta, rice and crackers into your diet for additional nutrients and fiber.. Limiting highly processed foods– which often contain added fat, sodium and sugar– is a great place to start toward improving eating habits.

Drinking fluids is also key to overall health. Adequate hydration promotes healthy skin, body temperature regulation, cognitive function and assists with digestion. Drinking plenty of water and limiting sugary drinks and caffeine are general recommendations, however fluid needs vary. Certain chronic conditions and medications may alter the amount you should consume so check with your healthcare provider for personalized recommendations.

Over the years, I’ve learned that trying new foods, experimenting with recipes and incorporating ethnic and cultural cuisines can make eating more enjoyable. It expands your palate, provides more nutrient, and promotes cultural awareness. And for many, even a few small changes to dietary habits can positively impact your blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, energy levels, weight and more.

It’s never too late to commit to adjusting your eating habits. Making healthy changes to our diet and lifestyle can start at any time of the year–not just with a new year’s resolution.

Happy Heart Month!

by: Amy Kotterman, RDN, LD – SED of Integrated Operations at United Church Homes

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Some older adults, in quiet moments, express a sense of being “done,” longing simply to be reunited with those they love. Others begin to step away from caring for their physical bodies—no longer seeing a reason to shower, change clothes, or keep up with routines that once grounded them. And many adult children notice with worry when a parent begins to misplace things more often or forget the names of grandchildren, wondering if dementia is emerging.

Mental health and medical professionals are, of course, the people best equipped to diagnose depression, dementia, or self‑neglect. Any of these may be part of what is happening. But I would also suggest that what we are seeing in many of these situations is a profound spiritual weariness—a diminishing sense of meaning, purpose, and connection.

Spirituality

Spiritual wellbeing, or spirituality, is the way we seek and express meaning and purpose. It is our connectedness—to others, to the sacred, to the natural world, to our inner selves, and even to time itself. When this connectedness frays, we feel it deeply.

In each of the older adults mentioned above, there is a common thread: they no longer feel that their life has purpose. When we can no longer participate in the activities that once brought us joy, or when we feel unable to offer our gifts the way we once did, something within us breaks. That break, that sense of disconnection, is not only emotional—it is spiritual.

Grief, too, has a spiritual dimension. When we look around and see that many of the people who once made up our world are gone—through distance or death—it can leave us feeling unmoored. The simple act of getting out of bed or taking a shower can feel pointless when we don’t see how our lives fit anymore within the broader tapestry of community. While these experiences can reflect mental or physical health challenges, they are also deeply tied to spiritual wellbeing.

Most of us need connection—though the amount and form of connection varies widely from person to person. Yet we all have a threshold for loneliness. And for older adults, loneliness and isolation can have serious consequences. You may have heard the comparison that loneliness can be as damaging to physical health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. That startling image points toward a deeper truth: disconnection doesn’t just affect the heart figuratively; it affects the whole person.

Spiritual Wellbeing in the New Year

Every January, many people notice an uptick in serious illness or death among older adults. It can be tempting to attribute this solely to the cold or the stress of winter, but I think the timing also reveals something essential about the human spirit.

During the holidays, older adults often have traditions to look forward to—decorating, singing familiar songs, sharing meals, receiving visitors. Family and friends tend to be more present. But when January arrives, the festivities end, routines shift back to ordinary life, and the long winter stretches out ahead. For someone already feeling fragile, facing a drop in connection, joy, or purpose can make those feelings even sharper.

The good news is this: there are simple and meaningful ways we can all help nurture spiritual wellbeing in the older adults around us.

Maybe that looks like taking soup to an older neighbor and sharing lunch at their table. Eating with someone—simply being present—supports not only digestion and nutrition but a sense of belonging. Or perhaps you bring a deck of cards and enjoy a game together. Even lighthearted banter over strategy can be a form of spiritual connection. Deep, vulnerable conversations aren’t required for us to feel linked to another person. In fact, even small interactions—a warm hello to a grocery clerk or postal worker—remind us that we are part of a larger community.

Invite older adults to talk about joy. Ask what brings them joy now. And if they struggle to answer, ask what brought them joy in the past. Together, consider ways they might experience something similar today. Often, the things that bring joy are also the things that connect us with meaning.

I recently spoke with an adult child whose mother, living with dementia, is still able to live in an apartment with her spouse in a life‑plan community. But the time is coming when she will likely move to memory care. Her son was heartbroken because she takes such pride in keeping her home tidy and doing laundry. I reminded him that there is no reason she must stop these activities when she transitions to a higher level of care. Though there will be housekeeping staff, she can still use her familiar duster in her room or a shared space. She can still fold laundry—whether it’s her own or a basket given to her for the joy of the task. These activities hold meaning, and that meaning matters.

Everyday Spiritual Practices

We don’t often think of playing games, folding laundry, sharing soup, or exchanging greetings as spiritual practices. But if they help us connect with others, they absolutely are. Taking time to listen to what brings someone joy—even if it seems small—can help them reconnect with what gives their life meaning.

Anything that draws us closer to the natural world, or that reminds us we belong to a community larger than ourselves, can be spiritual practice. And telling someone that their relationship matters to you can reaffirm their sense of worth and purpose.

These everyday moments, woven together, nurture spiritual wellbeing for all of us—regardless of age.

Find Connection and Purpose with United Church Homes

Loneliness and spiritual weariness don’t have to define the later years of life. At United Church Homes, we create communities where older adults can thrive—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Through chaplaincy services, life-enriching programs, and opportunities for meaningful engagement, we help older adults rediscover joy, purpose, and belonging.

Learn more about how we nurture spiritual wellbeing and connection.

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We used to call it downsizing, but it truly is rightsizing your life to fit the next chapter. When is the right time to rightsize? That’s a question many people over the age of 45 begin to consider—often because our children have moved out, and we’re approaching a completely new stage of life.

We start looking around and asking ourselves, Do I really need this much space? What am I going to do with all my time once the kids are gone or the finish line to working 9–5 is in sight? What happens to my health benefits if I retire? Am I going to work into my seventies—and do I want to?

Whether we’re thinking about working more, traveling more, or spending more quality time with family, all these factors begin to take shape as we reach a certain age. And one thing is certain: we all accumulate a lot of “stuff” over our lifetime. That stuff can become an obstacle—keeping us bogged down, holding us back from looking toward the future with a positive mindset. It becomes easy to say, I can’t take that trip because I have too much to do, or There’s so much to do—I just don’t have time, and then put it off another day.

At United Church Homes, we have an answer that can help you jump-start your next phase—and actually get excited about it.

It’s time to let go, embrace aging, and look forward to what’s ahead. You now have the freedom to do all the things you’ve been putting off due to obstacles, and one thing we do at United Church Homes is offer a variety of service lines and support programs to help make that first step simple.

If you are early in the process of thinking about these questions, The Center for Abundant Aging offers the NEXT Steps on-line course as you ease away from full-time employment. Rooted in the belief that life after full-time employment can be the most meaningful chapter yet, NEXT steps explores the deeper, non-financial dimensions of retirement in a practical framework for personal reflection and discernment. You can find more information here.

If you have already been contemplating making a move, consider our newest offering: Middle Market Senior Living. This option is designed for individuals beginning to consider what their next chapter will look like—how much space they truly need, what lifestyle they want to pursue, and where they want to live. It’s a place where everything is at your fingertips: transportation, meals, concierge services, and social engagement, all without leaving the community. You’ll also have access to a team of care specialists whenever questions or needs arise.

Our service support programs guide aging adults through the various stages of life and provide a clear navigation plan to finally tackle all the “things” that have been put off until now. One of the most challenging areas as we age is healthcare. Your health—and your spouse’s health—becomes a priority whether you choose it or not. Medicare and service support have grown increasingly complicated over the past decade. What was once a simple choice between Medicare and Medicaid has expanded into an alphabet of options that seem to change daily. How can anyone keep up?

That’s where our NaviGuide program comes in. NaviGuide provides a dedicated care coordinator—your personal concierge—who specializes in the services and support needed for your specific situation. They evaluate your individual needs and offer the best options to help you stay healthy, active, and in the most appropriate setting. They can identify programs to support new diagnoses and help you understand the choices available to you and your family. Their goal is to understand your vision for this new chapter of life and help you achieve it.

Below is a testimonial showing how one of United Church Homes’ NaviGuides assisted a client through this support process.

Dr. Reed’s story is just one example of how NaviGuide can support someone through life’s most challenging moments. It allowed her family to be truly present with her instead of trying to juggle the roles of caregiver and care coordinator.

At United Church Homes, our vision inspires new ways of thinking and talking about aging. We want to celebrate older adults and help them feel excited about their next chapter in life. We believe that service lines like our Middle Market communities, along with service support programs like NaviGuide, can help make that possible for all.

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Really? That can’t be!

Understanding Loneliness

Loneliness is a subjective experience. It’s not about how many people you know, but about the gap between the connections you want and the ones you have. It’s the feeling of lacking meaningful relationships.

Even before the pandemic, loneliness was considered an epidemic among older adults. But recent research shows it’s not limited to aging populations—young people are increasingly affected too. The pandemic simply amplified what was already there.

When Is Loneliness Unhealthy?

As we age, many factors can contribute to loneliness—loss of loved ones, reduced mobility, or difficulty leaving home. While digital technologies offer new ways to connect, older adults often find virtual interactions less fulfilling than face-to-face conversations.

Interestingly, people living in life plan communities tend to report lower levels of loneliness than those living alone. Yet, even in nursing homes or assisted living, loneliness can persist. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution.

So how do you know if your loneliness is unhealthy?

The UCLA 3-Item Loneliness Scale offers a quick self-check:

1. How often do you feel that you lack companionship?
2. How often do you feel left out?
3. How often do you feel isolated from others?

Rate each on a scale of 1 (hardly ever), 2 (some of the time), or 3 (often).

• A total score of 3–5 suggests you’re not lonely.
• A score of 6–9 indicates loneliness.

From Lonely to Connected

If you find yourself in the lonely category, there are steps you can take to connect with others.

1. Reflect on Your Needs

We all need different kinds of relationships. If you feel something’s missing, take steps to meet new people:

• Join a community group with shared interests.
• Take a class to learn something new.
• Volunteer or mentor others.
• Find a congregation or civic group where you feel a sense of belonging.

Trust yourself—you’ll know when you’re feeling less lonely.

2. Take Initiative

Small actions can make a big difference:

• Walk your letter to the post office instead of using your mailbox. A simple “hello” can remind you—and others—that you’re not alone.
• Check in on neighbors. They might be feeling lonely too.

3. Diversify Your Circle

Ruth, a remarkable woman I knew, was 96 and the oldest resident in her skilled care community. She was also one of the healthiest. Her secret? She made friends with people younger than herself. She connected across generations, enriching her life—and theirs.

In our age-segregated culture, reaching out to people of different generations can be deeply rewarding.

This is for all the Lonely People– Don’t Give Up

In 1974, Dan and Catherine Peek wrote Lonely People for the band America. It was a hopeful response to the Beatles’ Eleanor Rigby. One lyric stands out:

Don’t give up until you drink from the silver cup
And ride that highway in the sky

Dan explained that “drinking from the silver cup” is about connection—being refreshed by someone else’s experience. To me, it’s a song about overcoming loneliness through meaningful relationships.

We’re Wired for Connection

No matter where we are in life, we’re not meant to go it alone. Connection is essential to our mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. When we isolate ourselves, we not only suffer—we also withhold our gifts from the community around us.

The number and type of connections we need vary from person to person. But recognizing when loneliness is disconnecting us is the first step toward refreshing our ties to others and improving our own health.

How United Church Homes Fosters Connection

United Church Homes (UCH) actively combats loneliness among older adults through its Abundant Living philosophy, which emphasizes purpose, connection, and community. The initiatives include:

• NaviGuide: A personalized service that connects older adults with resources and social opportunities to reduce isolation.
• Abundant Aging Programs: These include life enrichment activities, intergenerational engagement and spiritual care designed to nurture emotional and social well-being.
• Community Design: UCH communities are intentionally built to encourage interaction through shared spaces, group activities, and wellness programs.

Together, these efforts create environments where older adults can thrive socially, emotionally, and spiritually.

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There Is Power in Asking

As a pastor for two United Church of Christ churches and chaplain for United Church Homes, the words ”We are not meant to do life alone; We need each other” are words I use frequently when delivering a sermon or having a conversation with a member of my congregation or a resident in one of our communities.

Jesus himself had help along the way in his ministry as seen by his great following of disciples. He did ministry and life in community. We live in a culture that often glorifies independence. But aging well means knowing when to lean on others for a little support along the way, whether it’s emotional support, physical support or spiritual support. I am eternally grateful to be a chaplain for United Church Homes offering spiritual support, or just a listening ear, for residents and staff. The chaplains in our communities have the privilege of holding worship services, spiritual care, creative Bible studies, grief counseling, abundant aging workshop opportunities, as well as taking a meaningful part in the resident’s care plan with their families and health care professionals—all while walking alongside each person in their times of both joy and sorrow throughout their life’s journey.

Stay Curious and Creative

Aging is about rediscovery. Did you know that being curious has health benefits? Studies have shown that being a curious person can give you a boost in happiness. Curious people tend to have more positive emotions and seem a bit more satisfied with life. Curiosity helps with memory retention and helps to relieve anxiety and depression. It also stimulates creativity, which can be a superpower as we age. If you’re curious about this, attend the Center for Abundant Aging’s annual Symposium with me on October 31st to learn more about the superpower of creativity and aging. Curiosity promotes healthy aging in all sorts of ways.

So why not let a friend help you find your curious self while at the same time exploring ways to enhance meaning and purpose in your life. Reconnect with old passions, explore new hobbies, write your story, literally. The possibilities are endless!

Nourishing Body and Spirit

Walks with a friend and my dog are always on my agenda when my schedule al

lows. Aging abundantly means treating your body like a trusted companion, not a failing machine. Move daily for your body and spirit, even if it is just taking time to do some deep breathing and stretching exercises. To help your body, mind and spirit even more is to schedule annual checkups, use medication reminders, hire a lawn service if you find you are unable to keep up with the lawn work the way you would like and schedule respite time if you are caring for another. If you need a little help with this, all of these and more can be scheduled and personalized for your needs by enrolling in the United Church Homes’ NaviGuide program, a subscription program with someone who is available to assist you in finding all the services you or your loved one may want or need in your area, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Other things to consider for your spiritual well-being, as well as your personal safety, might be installing grab bars where needed or using smart home devices to turn on lights before entering a room to prevent falls. On the lighter side, try staying socially active by finding a friend to join a club, attending a worship service or community event, or even singing in a choir. Though I may not be the best singer, I do love to sing loud and proud, especially in my car when I am alone. It is just good self-care for my soul. I have a wonderful friend who knows this about me and asked me to join a local community choir with her, and I have never regretted it! There truly is something for everyone. The world is your oyster ready and waiting for you to express your curious, creative self while at the same time finding nourishment for your soul.

Aging isn’t about loss, it’s about rediscovery. And remember, we all need a little help from our friends, occasionally. It’s in accepting help, we open the door to deeper relationships. By asking, you are allowing those you ask to enjoy the gift and blessing of giving to another.

So, here’s your invitation: ask for help, offer help and celebrate the help that makes aging a shared, beautiful journey.

by: Rev. Darla Metz, Chaplain for Community Engagement

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